Some people say that, if someone has suffered child sexual abuse, they are damaged for life, or it's a life sentence, or they have suffered irreparable harm.It may be true in one sense, but it denies the incredible capacity and potential that we have as...
I was busy tying up loose ends today and packing for another trip to share my story. As I packed, I listened to an old interview, recorded when I was struggling with severe migraines.The interviewer wanted me to tell how I made it in my...
Scripture tells us that we overcome by the words of our testimony and the blood of the Lamb.Even if you don't believe the Bible, anyone can see that sometimes the only way to get justice for abuse survivors, is to tell authorities what happened. We...
My doctor drew this graph for me. I thought you might relate. Recovery from any kind of stress or trauma is really the same. Once free from abuse, we think it will be easy, but that's not usually the case.We are fearfully and wonderfully made...
Loss and pain comes in many ways. It could be a car crash, or a sudden illness, or a fire, or a bad investment. It could be a court case or a job loss. It could be a relationship that breaks up. It could be...
So many of us live outside of the moment, instead of in the moment. Child sexual abuse survivors are especially prone to this. Our God given protective devices that enable us to mentally check-out during abuse can carry over into every part of life. While...
It happens all over the world. So, I shouldn't be surprised. Our nation has gone through stages of dehumanizing people groups before. It still seems that in these days of so-called enlightenment, we should be more civil, more compassionate, more responsive in law and policy.Rape...
Sometimes, we just want someone to understand. We don't need platitudes or sermons. We don't want someone to fix everything. We don't even really want to commiserate. We just want someone to walk through it with.Whatever your 'it' is. Many people I know have suffered...
Being frustrated all the time is very common in our society. Abuse survivors are numerous in our culture. We have a greater propensity toward perfectionism than that of the general population, because our sense of security and feeling in-control has been infringed upon.Everyone wants to...
You might be a perfectionist and not even know it. Many of the people I know are. If you have suffered trauma or abuse at the hands of other people, there's a good chance you'll develop perfectionism as a way of gaining control.When people hurt...